I had confided in her, and had every reason to trust her because, stupidly, I never thought she would tell details about me because we were so close.
I found out that she had told details about something I had told her about one day by total accident; a friend (We'll call her Cathy) mentioned some details that I knew she would only know because she was the only person I told.
At first, I was nonchalant because I wanted to see how much the third party would divulge. Then, I asked how Cathy knew the details, and she tried to cover up for Jessica. Then, I called Jessica out. I told her it was, shady that she did that and I was upset. What REALLY bothered me was that she tried to deny it, THEN she tried to justify it.
I was pretty upset. I didn't talk to her for a little while, but then to not ruin what we were doing, I sort of just snapped out of it.
I realized that, as sad as it may be, you really can't trust anyone. In my experience, only family can be trusted, because (generally speaking) they will have your back no matter what.
I think what irritated me the most was that she didn't just own up to what she had done; she lied about her lie. If she had been up front about what she did, I would have been a lot less annoyed with the situation.
I agree that trust is a very interesting topic. When you trust someone it allows you to have a sense of vulnerability which could possibly set you up to be hurt. When we trust someone we are essentially letting them in and putting ourselves out there. Also, people who are open with their feelings and trust people tend to have more of an optimistic attitude towards issues regarding trust. There are a lot of factors which contribute to having trust or a lack there of. Past experiences play a major role in determining the amount of trust that we have in people. If we have had negative experiences associated with trust and letting people in than odds are we will have our guard up to prevent us from getting hurt.
ReplyDeleteOh my gosh! I hate when you know people have said something you have told them to others and they try to deny it! That is one of my biggest pet peeves! I mean c’mon if you said it, then just say you did instead of digging a deeper hole for yourself. So, are you two still friends after all of this? And if you are, do you have any trust in her at all? It would definitely be very hard for me to trust anyone after spilling anything to others that I have told them. And yes, you’re right. You really can’t trust anyone.
ReplyDeleteIt is COMPLETELY frustrating! I remember in a chapter I read (I believe it was from this book) it says that we are responsible for our words, and she clearly was unable to be responsible for hers. Mature.
ReplyDeleteNo, we are no longer friends, but that is due to a completely different issue. However, it was, by and large, a communicational conflict.
After I realized she told my secret, I was pretty upset, but given the situation I was in, I allowed myself time to breathe, and let it roll off my back.