I think I react differently to different situations.
I try to address people calmly and sort through the problem, but that isn't always the case (it's mostly not the case). I think when I am really angry, I tend to BLOW UP, and if I am not yelling, I am talking aggressively and quickly. The text mentioned something about this being because it makes me think that I am getting my anger out or moving forward, and I think that might be why I am doing it, which is odd, because I KNOW screaming at someone isn't going to be productive in the long run.
If I get more upset than angry, I might leave the room if I don't feel like I am capable of handling the situation much longer.
And, like the book mentions, I am a venter. I will get with my friends and ventventvent about whatever it is. Sometimes that makes me feel better and I don't feel angry, and sometimes it makes me all the more pissed off so I have to go talk to the person with whom I'm angry. Page 145 mentions only seeing one's own perspective, but I think that I am pretty good about seeing their point, too, although I know at the end of the day, I am going to be more prone to thinking I am [mostly] right.
The way I handle anger most is by getting really upset, and it just adds to the problem all the more. If you aren't able to step back and calm down, you work yourself up, making yourself mentally and physically sick and often times you say and do things you don't mean to do i.e, slander, physical aggression, ect.
It's embarrassing, but I have been so angry with people before that I have said HORRIBLE things because I HAD to "even the score."
I am the same way as you. It always depends on what type of situation I am in. I feel that when I do blow up, the reason is because I feel like I am getting my anger out just like the book states. Although I think I am getting my anger out, it actual makes me angrier. When I do not blow up and I am upset, I too vent to my closest friends and family. I feel that if I am venting and they agree with me, it makes me feel so much better. In the long run I feel like there is a better way to communicate than blowing up on someone or keeping it all in.
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