I think that when I used facebook I use it as a way to sort of express my interests and hope that those interests might attract other to me, in a sense. For example, under the type of movies and TV shows I like, I have a lot of comedies. I find myself to be a fairly funny person, and I think that maybe to a certain extent I want to make that clear to people who might look at my profile.
I think as a whole I represent myself in a pretty classy way. I don't post pictures of myself doing inappropriate things (drinking alcohol when I am underage, dressed inappropriately, ect). This is for a few reasons. Aside from the fact that I don't think it's "cool" to show that I enjoy drinking, it is also mainly because I do not want to promote that image of myself to my family who use facebook or to give people something to talk negatively about me.
Also, I don't talk about my REALLY intimate personal life on facebook. If there is a death in my family, I might upload pictures but I won't make a status update about it because I think people use certain situations for attention, which I don't like. Also, I avoid politics on facebook. In my opinon, my beliefs (religious, political, ect) are MINE and I don't think they need to be broadcasted.
I do have some regrets in regards to things I have posted. The first thing that came to mind was a post I made regarding something my younger brother said. My dad's family is Jewish, and my little brother did not know what a Yamaka was and he called it a "Hannukah Hat." At the time, I thought it was really funny (*note that it was also the context of the story that made it funny), and I made a status about it. My Jewish uncle was extremely offended by it, and commented on the post. I was MORTIFIED. I had in NO WAY intended to knock Judaism at all, and I felt awful. I deleted the post instantly and called both he and my aunt to try to repair the situation.
This relates to conflict and communication because I had to follow the steps much like the book said. I had to recognize there was an issue (which wasn't hard because he told me) and make a remedy for it, which was my most sincere apology.
I agree with your post regarding facebook. I to see it as an invasion of privacy and feel the same way in regards that my feelings and belief don’t have to be broadcasted for everyone to see. I thought the way you handled the situation with your aunt and uncle is a prime example of how we can utilize the skills we have accumulated throughout the semester to help deal with issues involving conflict. I believe facebook had gotten to the point where it consumes people’s lives, as a result we have simply forgotten how to communicate on a more personal level. With facebook being such a major part of people’s lives I see people begging to rely too heavily on this passive form of communication.
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