I think the reason people typically have a negative view of conflict is because they are intimidated by it because it involves, as most people think, either having to let someone attack them in some way, or having to deal with someone who has hurt them in some way, which can be really painful. Many people are probably also view conflict negatively because they end up not fully resolving their issue, and if they do, the channels they use are probably not the most effective. If you are able to successfully address and manage conflict, it is not necessarily a horrible situation. Although conflict can be uncomfortable, if it is handled responsibly, it is much less so. I do think that as people learn more about conflict they fear it less because it starts being viewed as something that is actually really helpful, not hurtful. If you are able to handle conflict in such a way that is productive, it will most likely end well with mutually satisfying results that both parties are pleased with.
I agree with everything you say, but I also think that most people think of conflict negatively because they fear conflict. When there is fear in a relationship, the person restricts himself from expressing, his opinions, thoughts and needs. This leads to an incompatible relationship where conflict becomes inevitable. Whereas, if there is no fear both parties speak about their opnions and diferences can be sorted out by a mutually satisfying solution. People who try to avoid conflict and fear to confront their differences on an issue, get frustrated fast as they struggle with the conflict in their head. So it is good to take conflict as a positive aspect of life, because it helps with an outlook of different perspectives rather than the same monotonous view.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree with what you said about negative view of conflict. Others see this negative because they don't want to confront the problem and rather put it to the side. People don't use the proper tools and strategies to solve the problem, and this could be a reason why they see conflict as negative. Conflict is an uneasy problem to approach, but when one figures out how to handle it and use the right tools it ain't as bad as it seems. I believe the more you put the conflict aside it will further hinder the relationship between u and the other person. Great post.
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